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This past Friday, I went to a Blair show with some friends. She's a rising Argentinian artist, and did a pop-up sponsored by a vermouth company. One of my friends stepped out of the crowd for a few minutes... and came back with an extra drink for me. A drink that I didn't particularly want, that wasn't in line with my goals for the evening. Most people would accept it anyway.
Listen to me very carefully:If you deviate from your plan for these reasons, weight loss will be VERY hard to come by, since you won't often find yourself in social situations where:
So you need to get over them ASAP. Here's how:"I didn't want to be rude!" Switch shoes. Have you ever in your life thought somebody was rude (or difficult) because they turned down something they didn't want? Of course not. Why would the people you're with think any differently? If they do seem annoyed, or apply pressure: it's just because they're insecure about their own decisions, and would feel better if you made the same ones. That's NOT your responsibility. "I didn't want to be a buzzkill" If you not eating and drinking the same exact things as other people kills the vibe, there wasn't much of a vibe to begin with. "It would've been awkward if I didn't" It doesn't have to be. You can just say, "I'm actually all set, thanks!" and move on with your night. Don't make it any deeper than this 3-5 second interaction. "She would've been drinking alone" So? Again, it's NOT your responsibility to make other people feel comfortable with their decisions. I'd also gently challenge you and ask, are you maybe using THEIR decisions as rationale for your own? Obviously, I'm not saying there's never a time to be flexible for social reasons. But those times are few and far between, relative to how often people act like they are. Sam P.S. Is there anything else you struggle with in these situations? Reply to this email and let me know! That's what I'm here to help with. |
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